Changing Your Personal Reality - Part 1

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My Head Hurts…

While the subject area of "Personal Reality" might seem somewhat esoteric, philosophical and even confusing to some, information technology'southward something that'south non only relevant to every ane of u.s., but also something that impacts on virtually every area of our existence and homo experience in a tangible and practical manner. All the fourth dimension. Simply as we each accept dissimilar Dna, so too exercise nosotros each inhabit our own "personal" reality. That is, the way we feel our world. Notice I say "our world" considering the world and our world are two very different places. For the most part, 1 is absolute (forgetting that whole global warming affair for a moment) and the other is in a constant state of flux and transition; oftentimes irresolute drastically in a matter of minutes. You and I both know people who exist side by side with someone else (often in the aforementioned house), yet each of those people live in a total different reality. You may well be that people. Er, person. Why? Because physical environment (for the nigh part) doesn't determine reality, nosotros practise. We brand things skillful or bad. Difficult or easy. A lesson or a failure. An opportunity or a problem.

A Universal Reality?

How you and I will experience things is determined by each of us individually, non by what "appears" to exist going on to the rest of the world. There is no universal reality because every moment of every day you and I are interpreting, processing and reacting individually to a non-stop stream of information and stimuli from our physical world; the place we inhabit. Not to be confused with the identify we live; our head. It could be suggested that the majority of our living (how we each experience life) is really a cognitive, emotional and spiritual experience, not a concrete one. Although some people work very hard to make their life all about the concrete; which invariably leads to misery (another exploration for down the rail).

Nosotros Create Hard. And Easy.

Aye at that place are universal situations, circumstances and events but there is no universal reality because things just have the meaning that we give them. But equally things merely have the power (influence, control) in our lives that we permit them to have. Which also means that at that place are no "hard" situations (for case); merely unlike situations to which we each react individually. Some well, others not. Difficulty is a human construct; a label that you and I each assign to the various happenings in our world. Despite what nearly of u.s. believe, there is no universal "difficult" or "like shooting fish in a barrel"; only our personal interpretations of, and reactions to, what goes on in our day-to-day practical lives.

Where we Live

By "living in our head" I mean that our feel of the globe – that is, how we see various situations, circumstances and events, how we permit those things to affect u.s.a., what they mean to us and how we react to it all – is individual, unique and self-determined. Which is why we tin can come across two people going through what appears to be the same experience at the same time (some might erroneously say, the same reality) – a very similar court instance for case – yet they are both impacted in totally unlike ways. One learns a valuable life-lesson, grows emotionally, becomes more than aware, compassionate and enlightened, while the other suffers from extreme physical, emotional and psychological stress – all self-created by the way (situations don't create stress, people do) – loses confidence, becomes angry and bitter and slides into a depressive land for a period of fourth dimension. Why? Because the ii individuals weren't actually going through the same "feel" at all; they were each creating their ain experience. I positive. One negative.

The Puppet

Until nosotros admit that we each have the ability to determine our own reality and create our own experiences, nosotros will continue to be a puppet having our strings pulled past situations, events, circumstances and other people. We will proceed to exist the Reactor and non the Creator. Footstep one on the path to enlightenment, consciousness and lasting change (from the inside out) is to acknowledge that we tin can command our ain destiny, we can each create our ain reality, our world is non "the" globe and our history will only become our future if nosotros let that to happen. Step ii (in the Harper book of life-philosophy) is to sympathize that good or bad, hard or easy, happiness or misery are all choices – and to and then live appropriately. And remember; past not making a decision, you lot are making a decision. Be mindful that the decisions you lot don't brand will have merely as much touch on your personal reality equally the decisions you lot do make. 1 way or the other. Then don't delude yourself. If you have the ability to think, reason and cull, then you take the ability to change your personal reality for the better. If y'all consistently cull to not take action, to non use your potential and to non take dorsum the ability you've given away, then you vicariously choose mediocrity and misery and have nobody to blame only yourself. Subscribing to the "things will piece of work themselves out" philosophy is ignorant, naive, apathetic and shows a distinct lack of courage.

Yous are the author of your life. Start writing.

But What About My Sick Aunty?

Okay, I tin can hear some of you saying "but what most people who are diagnosed with cancer; surely their reality is decided for them?" And I would reply, is their affliction their reality? Does it define them? Make up one's mind them? Is their reality determined past what'due south happening to their (temporary) house? Is it possible for a terminally ill person  to experience joy, pleasure, connexion, fulfillment and happiness? A personal reality of calm and contentment perchance? Of course it is. 1 of life'south peachy curiosities is that we oftentimes meet terminally ill people who are much happier (happiness being the one universal goal) than their healthy counterparts. Why? Because they have let go of that which made them unhappy; fright, insecurity, greed, anger, bitterness… ego; the destructive crap. They have created a new reality to inhabit. A much better 1. While they will deal with the illness in a practical and intelligent style, they will also accept an ever-present sensation that they are non their trunk or their illness, therefore they do non need to exist miserable. And yes, I know that this epitome messes with our very Western thinking merely that is our loss – and another example of logic and science getting in the way of potential. Cultures much more than evolved than ours accept understood and embraced this wisdom forever.

1 Doesn't (need to) Equal the Other

In truth, the absenteeism of physical disease doesn't necessarily equate to happiness or success (we encounter evidence of this every day), just as the presence of affliction doesn't necessarily equate to misery or ending. So while cancer may bear upon my trunk, there is no need for it to determine my reality. I will choose my reality, my reality will not choose me. A disease is not me and I am not it. Just equally the chair that I currently sit down on is not me, neither are cancerous cells that might inhabit my body, me. While others may rationalise misery and ending, I will choose happiness and calm. Because I take that choice. Because my reality is my choice.

Equally is yours.

Tune in for Changing Your Personal Reality -Function two next week.

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